The One You Feed
There is an old teaching story I’ve always loved about a Cherokee elder who is teaching his grandson about life… “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, deception, false pride, superiority, and ego…
There’s an old Martin Mull comedy song I’ve always loved called They Never Met, which tells the story of a couple who would have been perfect for each other but for the fact that, as the title says, they never met – not even briefly, because she worked the day shift and he worked the night….
The Power of Hope
I was teaching a seminar a number of years ago when a woman stood up, dripping with disgust, and pointed an accusatory finger at me. ‘The problem with you,’ she said, ‘is that you give people hope.’ She had a point, although in my defense it had never occurred to me that this might be perceived as a bad thing…
A Poetic Way of Thinking About Thought
When I first saw something about the link between our thoughts and our feelings, I thought the realm of thought worked a bit like a Dr. Seuss poem:
Black thought, white thought
Dark thought, light thought
Happy thought, sad thought
Good thought, bad thought
The Inevitable Tetherball of Insight and Wellbeing
A number of years ago, I met with a potential client who was interested in getting coaching for his nascent business. During our first meeting, I couldn’t help but notice that despite his friendly demeanor, his leg was bouncing up and down so much that it made the sofa shake.
Six Blind Men and the Nature of Genius
I’ve been taking some time to reflect in advance of next month’s Genius Catalyst Program on the nature of the intelligence that in my work is often called “Mind”, “Universal Mind”, or more colloquially “the wisdom within”. As is often the case when attempting to describe something that is fundamentally beyond words, I was reminded of the story of the blind men and the elephant….
A Cab Driver Named Adolf
My youngest daughter and I went for a coffee (iced vanilla latte for her, bulletproof for me) and she asked me about how I started writing books. I talked about some of the ghost writing I did in my very early days, moving on from that to be a developmental editor on Paul McKenna’s “I Can Make You…” book series that have sold over six million copies and counting…
A Glorious Ignoramus
The other night, I found myself in one of my favorite situations, sipping wine around a table with new friends and old, talking about the nature of life, love, and the human condition. I was in the room courtesy of Nic Askew, a filmmaker who I first met in London thirteen years ago…
A 10,000 Year Old Model for Success
Around 10,000 years ago, societies began to transition from a hunter/gatherer approach to feeding their families and tribes to an agricultural one, where working the land allowed them a less nomadic existence than following the food supply through its seasonal migrations….
Your Most Enjoyable Year Yet
Since 1994, I began each year by going through a wonderful process developed by Jinny Ditzler called Your Best Year Yet. I would review my achievements and failures from the year before, look for any limiting beliefs that might be holding me back, check in with what was most important to me and set my goals for the year ahead. And year after year, I had my best year yet…
Homer Simpson, Charlton Heston, and the Gateway to Insight
One of the benefits of gaining a deeper understanding into the nature of the human experience is that we become more insightful. Life starts to seem more intuitive and at times even obvious, and things that appeared dark and mysterious open themselves up in the light of our new insights.
The Keeper Test
A couple of months ago, I had the opportunity to do a talk and spend some time with a senior management team at Netflix. In preparation for the event, I read through the Netflix Culture Doc, a document about what Netflix call their “unusual corporate culture”…
The Invisible Key to Making Change Happen
This past week, my core business team and I spent three days in London reviewing the year that’s coming to a close and making plans for the year ahead. As we inevitably do in these reviews, we got insights into some underlying patterns of thinking
Before Thought and Beyond Belief
One of the words I hear myself use most often in my work is “grounding”. It’s a way of talking about where we are coming from in our life and work. What we’re grounded in is the thinking that seems real to us…
What Makes Your Life a Happy One?
The noted psychologist George Pransky has been a friend, inspiration, and mentor to me since I first came across his work in 2007. One of my favorite “George stories” is from the 1970’s…