Money, Insecurity, and a Superstitious Pigeon

The other day, I was sitting in the garden outside the home of a very wealthy client, enjoying a few minutes of quiet while they finished up with another meeting. When they came to join me, we sat together for a bit before heading up to the patio for a light lunch and surprisingly heavy conversation about money…..

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Adulting

It’s Sunday morning. The World Cup final is recording so I can watch it on tape delay if I manage to avoid my phone, the internet, and everyone I know wanting to share their joy, grief, outrage, or apathy at the still pending result. And when I’m done writing, I’ll be taking our cat Roscoe to the vet to say goodbye….

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How to Be Original

It probably won’t surprise regular readers of these blogs to know that from time to time, I get on a metaphorical high horse and go off on a rant about one thing or another. The fact that the horse always turns out to be made of papier-mâché, breaking apart under the pressure of trying to support…

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What Happens After the Lights Come on?

For many years, I’ve been a student of spiritual literature. Some of my favorite writings are from or about people who have had what can be described as “spiritual awakenings”, where the metaphorical light of consciousness came fully on and they discovered there was no-one there. While the awakening experiences themselves are often fascinating, I’m equally fascinated by how life changes after.

For some, nothing much seems to change, although everything may well be different:

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What It Takes to Change the World

Back in 2016, I published a blogpost called Love and Creative Disruption where I did my best to describe the two forces that in my decades of experience in the field of transformation make great coaching (and by proxy great leadership) great….

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The Hedgehog of Wisdom

There is a line from the Greek poet Archilochus, which is generally translated as:
The fox knows many things, but the hedgehog knows one big thing.
While foxes might be cunning and able to devise hundreds of strategies for catching unsuspecting hedgehogs off guard and eating them for dinner, the hedgehog has only one defensive strategy

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Picasso and the Nature of Reality

In Creating the Impossible, I share one of my favorite stories about the painter Pablo Picasso, who was reportedly traveling on a train with a wealthy businessman who criticized his art as being ‘unrealistic’. When Picasso asked him to explain…

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Fearless Intention

Years ago, I was on a book tour in the north of England and one of the venues I was speaking at was a 17th century church. While neither my book nor talk were particularly religious in nature…

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One Problem, One Solution

Today’s blog is excerpted from The Space Within. When I was 32 years old, I discovered the secret to life. I dropped into a space inside myself that was so deep and beautiful and clear that everything seemed possible..

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The Three Languages of the Three Principles

This past weekend, we launched the Czech language edition of the second book in the Inside-Out trilogy, The Space Within. As we did with the release of Uvnitř v sobě, the launch involved an interview with a Czech television station and a public “christening”…

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What Happens at “Level 43”?

During a small group coaching intensive I was running in London last week, one of the participants asked me about “levels of consciousness”, as they had read about them in the enlightened author Syd Banks’ books but had heard other teachers of the principles Syd wrote about say that “there are no levels.”….

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How the Mind Actually Works

This weekend I went to see my daughter in a school dance concert that was of such a high standard put my high school musical experience into an embarrassing context. Despite having been asked not to, the theatre was lit up with audience members taking out their phones to film. I got up onto my mental high horse…

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How to Be More of Who You Already Are

Today’s blog is adapted and excerpted from the newly revised and updated 10th anniversary edition of Supercoach, available this fall from Hay House…
Recently, a woman whose thoughts were in a terrible spin called in to my radio show. She was worried about everything…

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How Things Actually Happen

Last week was the final week of this year’s Creating the Impossible program, and I’m still feeling filled up with the richness of feeling from our final call. People shared their highlights and “ta da!” moments from the past 90 days…

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How to Change the World

Today’s blog is excerpted from my book Creating the Impossible: A 90 day program to get your dreams out of your head and into the world…The week I began working on this book, I read a distressing (to me) article about how Mahatma Gandhi was estranged from his eldest son, Harilal, throughout his adult life. I immediately called my own first born, Oliver…

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Three Pieces of Good News (that sound like bad news), part three

Today, I want to share a third thing that I have come to see over a nearly 30 year career as a teacher and coach. It impacts how I do everything I do with students and clients, and is perhaps best summed up in this story I first heard in a dialogue between Anthony de Mello, an enlightened Jesuit priest, and one of his students….

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Three Pieces of Good News (that sound like bad news), part one

When I talk with people about my seven year battle with suicidal depression nearly three decades ago, I often describe it like this: “It was the best thing that ever happened to me, and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.” It doesn’t feel right to call it “a gift”, because I would never purposefully give it to my children or anyone else I cared about, and yet I am incredibly grateful for what I’ve learned, who I’ve become, and who I’ve been able to help at least partially because I went through it.

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Beyond a Shadow of a Doubt

One of the things I love about running retreats is that I get to go on them as well. Granted it’s different from the front of the room, but the essential elements – time away from everyday routine….

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The Strangest Discipline

When I ask my clients what they think is really holding them back from living the life of their dreams, the most frequent answer I get is: “A lack of discipline.”

When I ask them which disciplines specifically they feel they’re lacking in, they tend to come back to me with some variations on these common themes:

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The Source of Well-being

People often live as though their experience of life takes place on a continuum ranging from misery to joy. The game of life then becomes about figuring out how to spend more time at the happy end of the continuum and less time at the miserable end….

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Five Things I Remember from the Week My Father Died

My dad died on February 12th, 1992 – twenty six years ago today. He was hit by a car crossing the street in my home town. The kid driving the car had only had his license for a week, and was neither drunk nor speeding – he just didn’t notice my dad in the crosswalk until it was too late….

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The Three Levels of Change Revisited

The first book I wrote after stumbling across the inside-out understanding was called Supercoach: 10 Secrets to Transform Anyone’s Life. At the time, I thought I was definitively laying out a new paradigm in understanding human behavior…

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What it Feels Like to Be a Millionaire

On Sunday, I was preparing to do a FB Live for the Creating the Impossible online program and reflecting on how to demonstrate the difference between something we want to create for its own sake and something we chase after in the world hoping it will make us feel a certain way when we catch it…

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The Highest Goals of Transformative Coaching

I’ve spent the past week in the company of a group of amazing, committed, and curious souls who came together for the first five days of Supercoach Academy 2018. In preparing for the week, I reflected at length about the nature of happiness, insight, creating, success, the Three Principles, life, and the whole field of coaching…

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Cultivating Freedom of Mind

One morning I was driving my daughter Maisy to school when she asked me, ‘If you had a dollar for every time you overthought things, how rich would you be?’
I laughed in recognition of the fact that in the economy of overthinkers, I would be a wealthy man indeed….

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Would You Rather be Right, Happy, or Effective?

One of fascinating things about the inside-out understanding – the fact that our personal realities are made up of thought – is that it lets us take a look behind the scenes of the human experience and make sense of why we’re happy and effective…

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Are you ready to make your dreams come true?

I’ve been working with high performers for over 25 years. One of my more memorable teaching experiences came a few years back when I was facilitating a group of coaches in New York City and someone asked a question about ‘the limits of human creativity.’ After letting the conversation run for a bit…

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