Love is Love

Twelve years ago at around 2:00am, a couple of firefighters had just returned from a medical call. Only the clicking of a keyboard broke the silence of the early morning stillness in the fire station as the details of the call were being recorded in the medical report…

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Always Already Home

I had a bizarrely vivid dream last night. An old friend from school and I were involved in some sort of rebellion, undermining a police state and doing our best to stay one step ahead of whoever it was that was after us. At one point, after we’d been riding a train to get away from a failed attempt to kill us with a suitcase bomb when the train slowed and we hopped off in a strange place neither of us had ever been to before…

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What if the Principles Aren’t Enough?

One of the things that I will often say to students on Supercoach Academy is this:

If you want to be more successful as a coach, you have to become more impactful; if you want to become more impactful, you have to allow yourself to be impacted.

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Why I Have Hope for Humanity

In December, 2018, my wife and I went to the university town of St. Gallen in Switzerland so I could give a talk at TEDx HSG called Can a TEDx Talk Really Change the World?Since the video was released last week, I’ve been fielding a number of queries from people who want to know more about the “ideas worth spreading” I shared during the talk. While I certainly recommend watching it and seeing what you see, I can highlight the main points here:

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Leveraging Impact and Change

For nearly 30 years, I’ve been exploring the source of impact in working with others, seeking answers to questions like:

What are the differences that make a real and lasting difference?
What works most of the time as opposed to occasionally?
How do you follow Hippocrates dictum to “first, do no harm”?

The question I’ve probably spent the most time exploring is this:

How do we maximize impact while minimizing the time and effort it takes to consistently achieve it?

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Are You Here?

A few years back, I was being interviewed for an article on leadership when the interviewer asked me a question I’d never been asked before: What’s the most important question we can ask ourselves as leaders?

My answer surprised me, as the question that came to mind was “Am I here?”

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Return to Sender

Cancer is funny.

Especially Merriam-Webster’s definition numbers 2 and 1a
(placed in that order here for literary effect).

Funny adjective
fun·ny | \ˈfə-nē

2: differing from the ordinary in a suspicious, perplexing, quaint, or eccentric way: PECULIAR
My car has been making a funny noise…

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The One You Feed

There is an old teaching story I’ve always loved about a Cherokee elder who is teaching his grandson about life… “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, deception, false pride, superiority, and ego…

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Invisible Impact

There’s an old Martin Mull comedy song I’ve always loved called They Never Met, which tells the story of a couple who would have been perfect for each other but for the fact that, as the title says, they never met – not even briefly, because she worked the day shift and he worked the night….

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The Power of Hope

I was teaching a seminar a number of years ago when a woman stood up, dripping with disgust, and pointed an accusatory finger at me. ‘The problem with you,’ she said, ‘is that you give people hope.’ She had a point, although in my defense it had never occurred to me that this might be perceived as a bad thing…

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A Poetic Way of Thinking About Thought

When I first saw something about the link between our thoughts and our feelings, I thought the realm of thought worked a bit like a Dr. Seuss poem:

Black thought, white thought
Dark thought, light thought
Happy thought, sad thought
Good thought, bad thought

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The Inevitable Tetherball of Insight and Wellbeing

A number of years ago, I met with a potential client who was interested in getting coaching for his nascent business. During our first meeting, I couldn’t help but notice that despite his friendly demeanor, his leg was bouncing up and down so much that it made the sofa shake.

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Six Blind Men and the Nature of Genius

I’ve been taking some time to reflect in advance of next month’s Genius Catalyst Program on the nature of the intelligence that in my work is often called “Mind”, “Universal Mind”, or more colloquially “the wisdom within”. As is often the case when attempting to describe something that is fundamentally beyond words, I was reminded of the story of the blind men and the elephant….

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A Cab Driver Named Adolf

My youngest daughter and I went for a coffee (iced vanilla latte for her, bulletproof for me) and she asked me about how I started writing books. I talked about some of the ghost writing I did in my very early days, moving on from that to be a developmental editor on Paul McKenna’s “I Can Make You…” book series that have sold over six million copies and counting…

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A Glorious Ignoramus

The other night, I found myself in one of my favorite situations, sipping wine around a table with new friends and old, talking about the nature of life, love, and the human condition. I was in the room courtesy of Nic Askew, a filmmaker who I first met in London thirteen years ago…

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A 10,000 Year Old Model for Success

Around 10,000 years ago, societies began to transition from a hunter/gatherer approach to feeding their families and tribes to an agricultural one, where working the land allowed them a less nomadic existence than following the food supply through its seasonal migrations….

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Your Most Enjoyable Year Yet

Since 1994, I began each year by going through a wonderful process developed by Jinny Ditzler called Your Best Year Yet. I would review my achievements and failures from the year before, look for any limiting beliefs that might be holding me back, check in with what was most important to me and set my goals for the year ahead. And year after year, I had my best year yet…

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The Keeper Test

A couple of months ago, I had the opportunity to do a talk and spend some time with a senior management team at Netflix. In preparation for the event, I read through the Netflix Culture Doc, a document about what Netflix call their “unusual corporate culture”…

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The Invisible Key to Making Change Happen

This past week, my core business team and I spent three days in London reviewing the year that’s coming to a close and making plans for the year ahead. As we inevitably do in these reviews, we got insights into some underlying patterns of thinking

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Before Thought and Beyond Belief

One of the words I hear myself use most often in my work is “grounding”. It’s a way of talking about where we are coming from in our life and work. What we’re grounded in is the thinking that seems real to us…

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What is Money?

I’ve always suspected that the first official ‘financial’ transaction between nations involved the trade of several chickens for a goat, and that both nations (or what we would today consider to be tribes) had members who violently protested that ‘our chickens are worth way more than their goats’ and vice versa…

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A Different Way to Succeed

We’ll be taking a deep dive together into the largely uncharted waters of the human potential. We’ll be focusing less on ‘how to live’ than on a new understanding of how life works…

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A Meaningful Conversation

When I first started teaching people about the work of Sydney Banks just over a decade ago, I had the distinct advantage that nobody had any idea of what I was talking about and I wasn’t that sure myself…

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