Growing Up in a Dysfunctional Family

Before I get a bunch of mail from the people I grew up with about this, let me clarify an important point: My birth family was not dysfunctional. Mom and Dad loved each other and us; my siblings got along as well and at times better than most. So why the title of today’s blog?

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Are You Willing to Be Wrong?

Over the course of this past week, we began a new mentoring mastermind group called Infinite Potential, Infinite Possibilities. One of the basic premises of the program comes from a quote by Arnold Patent I shared in The Inside-Out Revolution:

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The Story of Me

The author/philosopher Ken Wilber talks about a core concept in his writings about spirituality he calls “the pre/trans fallacy”. In a very tight nutshell, what he is describing is our tendency to confuse the pre-personal “ignorant” innocence…

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When Humanity and Divinity Collide

Since this is the very first blog post I am writing under the new header of “Caffeine for the Soul”, I thought I’d share a bit about where this juxtaposition of the sacred and the profane that permeates my work first started to appear in my...

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The ‘X’ Factor in Predicting the Future

One of the things I love about the work that I do is that when we catch our first glimpse of the thought-created nature of our personal reality, the adventure has just begun. It’s like spending your life stumbling around in a cave and then being handed a...

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A Whole New Way of Thinking About Mindfulness

Mindfulness, as defined by Wikipedia, is “the intentional, accepting and non-judgmental focus of one’s attention on the emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment”. But for me, mindfulness can be understood at a couple of different levels. At...

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Owning Your Self

Normally, I write these weekly missives from a place of already knowing what I have to say without necessarily knowing how I’m going to say it. At some point during the week I have an insight; in the tip I share the insight and point as best I can to the place...

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Where Confidence Comes From

This weekend, I gave a talk on bringing out the best in yourself and others at The Best You exhibition in London. After the talk, one of the participants asked me if I had always been a confident speaker or if it was something which had developed over time. In...

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The Secret of What Matters Most

Back in my early personal development days, I spent many hours with pen and journal in hand trying to create ‘values hierarchies’ – lists of things that mattered to me in the order that they mattered. My lists would vary from year to year, but would inevitably look...

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Living an Invisible Life

Twenty years ago, I appeared on a television show in the UK called “The Big Breakfast”. My job was to hypnotize the host, Zoe Ball, into overcoming her fear of flying so that she could get into a small airplane with a 75 year old nun who was doing her first ever...

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The Nothing at the Heart of Everything

I’m at that wonderfully strange stage of releasing a new book where I send it out to people the world and I admire and ask them to read it with an eye towards offering up a nice quote if they like what they’ve read. Here’s an excerpt from what Gay Hendricks, co-author...

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The Art of Creating, Part One – The Big Nothing

One of the things I love about writing relatively short blog posts on a relatively regular basis is that I get to experience the whole of the creative process from start to finish. I begin each week with some kind of nothing (more on this in a bit), and by the time...

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Who are You, Really?

Over twenty years ago, I was living in London and reading an exceptional amount of Eastern spiritual writings when I stumbled across a book called “The Teachings of Ramana Maharishi“. There was a simple practice outlined in the book where the reader was encouraged to...

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How to Love the Year Ahead

Since 1994, I have begun each year by going through a wonderful process developed by Jinny Ditzler called Your Best Year Yet. I would review my achievements and failures from the year before, look for any limiting beliefs that might be holding me back, check in...

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“I Know it’s Just my Thinking, but…”

In 2012, three years after having successfully launched an international training school for coaches called Supercoach Academy, I put the school on hold for a year because I noticed something was “off” in the way people were hearing the principles

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What’s the Difference Between a Goal and a Miracle? (part one)

I’ve been thinking a lot about miracles this week – what they are, where they might come from, and whether or not they have any relevance in our modern world. It occurs to me that there are a couple of distinctions which mark out what we might call a “miracle” from stuff that just happens or goals we work hard to achieve…

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Fixing Shadows

​When people first begin learning about how everything we see, hear, taste, touch, and smell is made up of thought, there’s an interesting thing that happens with remarkable consistency. The first is that some problem they’d been suffering with in their life “pops”, in the sense that they either find an easy solution, make their peace with it…

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Believe it or Not!

In 1919, a cartoonist named LeRoy Robert Ripley released the first of a new series of daily panels which shared bizarre but true facts and stories from around the world. Over 100,000 cartoons later, “Ripley’s Believe it or Not!” has spawned books, radio series, TV...

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A Whole New Way of Thinking About Rapport

When I started my training as a coach back in 1989, one of the most important things they taught us was the importance of rapport in relationships – that feeling of goodwill between you and your client, customer, or loved ones that both greased the wheels of any interaction and served as a safety net for any time you needed to “go out on a limb”

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From Tiny Acorns…

In 1999, one of my mentors took me to one side and said “The problem with you is that you’re too creative for your own good.” Not yet sure whether to be insulted or flattered, I listened on as he continued “You come up with all of these...

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In Praise of “Average”

I was talking to the supercoach Steve Chandler once when he said to me, “Have an average day!” A bit taken aback, I asked him what he meant. After all, isn’t the idea to have “great” days, or even “exceptional” ones? He then told me the story of one of his mentors, a...

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