How Things Actually Happen

Last week was the final week of this year’s Creating the Impossible program, and I’m still feeling filled up with the richness of feeling from our final call. People shared their highlights and “ta da!” moments from the past 90 days…

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How to Change the World

Today’s blog is excerpted from my book Creating the Impossible: A 90 day program to get your dreams out of your head and into the world…The week I began working on this book, I read a distressing (to me) article about how Mahatma Gandhi was estranged from his eldest son, Harilal, throughout his adult life. I immediately called my own first born, Oliver…

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Three Pieces of Good News (that sound like bad news), part three

Today, I want to share a third thing that I have come to see over a nearly 30 year career as a teacher and coach. It impacts how I do everything I do with students and clients, and is perhaps best summed up in this story I first heard in a dialogue between Anthony de Mello, an enlightened Jesuit priest, and one of his students….

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Three Pieces of Good News (that sound like bad news), part one

When I talk with people about my seven year battle with suicidal depression nearly three decades ago, I often describe it like this: “It was the best thing that ever happened to me, and I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.” It doesn’t feel right to call it “a gift”, because I would never purposefully give it to my children or anyone else I cared about, and yet I am incredibly grateful for what I’ve learned, who I’ve become, and who I’ve been able to help at least partially because I went through it.

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Beyond a Shadow of a Doubt

One of the things I love about running retreats is that I get to go on them as well. Granted it’s different from the front of the room, but the essential elements – time away from everyday routine….

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The Strangest Discipline

When I ask my clients what they think is really holding them back from living the life of their dreams, the most frequent answer I get is: “A lack of discipline.”

When I ask them which disciplines specifically they feel they’re lacking in, they tend to come back to me with some variations on these common themes:

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The Source of Well-being

People often live as though their experience of life takes place on a continuum ranging from misery to joy. The game of life then becomes about figuring out how to spend more time at the happy end of the continuum and less time at the miserable end….

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Five Things I Remember from the Week My Father Died

My dad died on February 12th, 1992 – twenty six years ago today. He was hit by a car crossing the street in my home town. The kid driving the car had only had his license for a week, and was neither drunk nor speeding – he just didn’t notice my dad in the crosswalk until it was too late….

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The Three Levels of Change Revisited

The first book I wrote after stumbling across the inside-out understanding was called Supercoach: 10 Secrets to Transform Anyone’s Life. At the time, I thought I was definitively laying out a new paradigm in understanding human behavior…

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What it Feels Like to Be a Millionaire

On Sunday, I was preparing to do a FB Live for the Creating the Impossible online program and reflecting on how to demonstrate the difference between something we want to create for its own sake and something we chase after in the world hoping it will make us feel a certain way when we catch it…

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The Highest Goals of Transformative Coaching

I’ve spent the past week in the company of a group of amazing, committed, and curious souls who came together for the first five days of Supercoach Academy 2018. In preparing for the week, I reflected at length about the nature of happiness, insight, creating, success, the Three Principles, life, and the whole field of coaching…

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Cultivating Freedom of Mind

One morning I was driving my daughter Maisy to school when she asked me, ‘If you had a dollar for every time you overthought things, how rich would you be?’
I laughed in recognition of the fact that in the economy of overthinkers, I would be a wealthy man indeed….

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Are you ready to make your dreams come true?

I’ve been working with high performers for over 25 years. One of my more memorable teaching experiences came a few years back when I was facilitating a group of coaches in New York City and someone asked a question about ‘the limits of human creativity.’ After letting the conversation run for a bit…

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Creation, Preservation, Destruction, and Sustainable Business Success

Long term readers of this blog will know that every December, I do my best to “blow up” my business and take a fresh look at the assumptions underlying how we do what we do. In effect, the question we ask ourselves each year is “if everything is up for grabs and nothing is a given, what would we want to create in the world and how would we go about creating it?”….

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What’s Your Superpower?

About six months ago, Professor Anthony Kessel, a colleague and friend, approached me about co-authoring an article about the principles behind the human experience for a mainstream medical journal in the UK…

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Dear Tim Ferriss, part two

In part one of this blog (click here if you missed it), I posed a question:

How can I best learn from the wisdom and experience of others without discounting what I’ve learned from my own experience and the wisdom of my soul?….

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Dear Tim Ferriss, part one

I have a kind of a love/hate relationship with Tim Ferriss. On the one hand, he impresses the hell out of me, and he’s my son’s favorite writer/podcaster. On the other hand, he’s one of the few people who my thinking goes into overload reading…

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The Ultimate Gift of Gratitude

I’ve never been terribly good at giving thanks. One of the more infamous stories from my childhood involved my saying, “Thank you for the yucky present” to my favorite aunt and uncle which while it does get me points for honesty seems a bit churlish in retrospect….

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Does Setting Goals Actually Help?

I am in the midst of a renovation project – the renovation of one of my early books, Supercoach, from how things looked like to me a decade ago to how they look to me now. Here’s a section from the chapter “The Problem With Goals”…

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Deadlines, Pressure, and Performance

I’ve been spending a lot of time of late thinking about pressure – the feeling of having to get on and do or achieve something lest some gradually closing in on you monster reaches up out of the darkness and eats you alive…

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Two Surprisingly Unsurprising Keys to Long-term Success

Over the weekend, I had a chat with someone who used to run his own advertising agency and is now the creative director for a much larger agency. He was saying that while the big agencies obviously have an edge in terms of being able to recruit and pay over the odds for top talent, the real edge they have..

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Intention vs. Volition

One of the questions that has been fascinating me in my work as both a coach and business owner over the past couple of years is this:
How do we create in a world where we are not in control? In last week’s blog, I pointed to two key elements that seem to always be present in any answer to this question…

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