There is a story I love about the Scottish mystic Syd Banks that the first time he went to speak at a prison, he began his talk by flinging his arms wide and declaring to the assembled group, “You are all innocent.”..
This week’s blog, How Change Really Happens, is excerpted from my coaching apprentice turned colleague Nicola Bird’s first Hay House book, A Little Peace of Mind. It shares a simple metaphor for how profound change can happen without any effort, willpower, and practice through insight and understanding.
Almost eight years ago, my son Oliver and I were taking a campus tour of Boston College when I came across an interview with Father Michael Himes, a Catholic priest who was a part of the theology faculty there. In discussing how he came to choose the topic for his weekly message, he said that he long ago determined the futility of trying to direct a particular message at the diverse needs of his listeners. He asks himself instead what he most needs to hear and speaks to that…
Money fascinates me. On the one hand, it seems to “makes the world go round”; on the other hand, it clearly has no intrinsic value, worth, or power outside of the system of agreements we operate inside of. So how has something as abstract and fungible as “money” become so tangible in driving human behavior?…
Over the past few weeks, I’ve gotten a number of emails from people wondering (and in a few instances complaining) about the fact that I’m offering a new program about financial freedom. The general question goes something like this:
If you say there’s a spiritual essence to your work, isn’t it distracting (or misleading or evil) to talk about money?
Twelve years ago at around 2:00am, a couple of firefighters had just returned from a medical call. Only the clicking of a keyboard broke the silence of the early morning stillness in the fire station as the details of the call were being recorded in the medical report…
I had a bizarrely vivid dream last night. An old friend from school and I were involved in some sort of rebellion, undermining a police state and doing our best to stay one step ahead of whoever it was that was after us. At one point, after we’d been riding a train to get away from a failed attempt to kill us with a suitcase bomb when the train slowed and we hopped off in a strange place neither of us had ever been to before…
One of the things that I will often say to students on Supercoach Academy is this:
If you want to be more successful as a coach, you have to become more impactful; if you want to become more impactful, you have to allow yourself to be impacted.
In December, 2018, my wife and I went to the university town of St. Gallen in Switzerland so I could give a talk at TEDx HSG called Can a TEDx Talk Really Change the World?Since the video was released last week, I’ve been fielding a number of queries from people who want to know more about the “ideas worth spreading” I shared during the talk. While I certainly recommend watching it and seeing what you see, I can highlight the main points here:
For nearly 30 years, I’ve been exploring the source of impact in working with others, seeking answers to questions like:
What are the differences that make a real and lasting difference?
What works most of the time as opposed to occasionally?
How do you follow Hippocrates dictum to “first, do no harm”?
The question I’ve probably spent the most time exploring is this:
How do we maximize impact while minimizing the time and effort it takes to consistently achieve it?
A few years back, I was being interviewed for an article on leadership when the interviewer asked me a question I’d never been asked before: What’s the most important question we can ask ourselves as leaders?
My answer surprised me, as the question that came to mind was “Am I here?”
Cancer is funny.
Especially Merriam-Webster’s definition numbers 2 and 1a
(placed in that order here for literary effect).
fun·ny | \ˈfə-nē
2: differing from the ordinary in a suspicious, perplexing, quaint, or eccentric way: PECULIAR
My car has been making a funny noise…
There is an old teaching story I’ve always loved about a Cherokee elder who is teaching his grandson about life… “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, deception, false pride, superiority, and ego…
There’s an old Martin Mull comedy song I’ve always loved called They Never Met, which tells the story of a couple who would have been perfect for each other but for the fact that, as the title says, they never met – not even briefly, because she worked the day shift and he worked the night….
I was teaching a seminar a number of years ago when a woman stood up, dripping with disgust, and pointed an accusatory finger at me. ‘The problem with you,’ she said, ‘is that you give people hope.’ She had a point, although in my defense it had never occurred to me that this might be perceived as a bad thing…